A Culture of Kindness: 26 Acts of Kindness – 2013
Why on earth would a rational person give money to charity–particularly a charity that supports strangers? What do they get?
In fact, every time someone donates to a good cause, they’re buying a story, a story that’s worth more than the amount they donated.
It might be the story of doing the right thing, or fitting in, or pleasing a friend or honoring a memory, but the story has value. It might be the story that you, and you alone are able to make this difference, or perhaps it’s the story of using leverage to change the world. For many, it’s the story of what it means to be part of a community. Seth Godin http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2013/11/what-do-we-get-when-we-give-to-a-good-cause.html
This Seth Godin quote provides a solid rationale why adults give to charities. Kids and young people don’t have nor do many of them think about charity in terms of dollars and cents. A precursor to giving both time as a volunteer and money as an adult, I believe, is creating a culture of kindness and giving in kids’ home and school lives.
We need to create a “culture of kindness,” encouraging a spirit of generosity and love where differences are accepted and celebrated, rather than targeted. In a culture of kindness, students stand up for and next to one another, all for one and one for all. A dedicated effort to teach, advocate, and model kindness will work much better than efforts to punish meanness. Michael Josephson http://whatwillmatter.com/2012/04/commentary-establishing-a-culture-of-kindness/
One of the best ways to create a culture of kindness is to model and live one. Last year, in response to the Sandy Hook travesty, Ann Curry propose 26 acts of kindness to honor the 26 children and teachers killed at the elementary school. My post of last year’s acts, Living a Life of Kindness: #26acts. I plan on making this a yearly occurrence and posting about it – hopefully to inspire others to add a little more kindness into their own and their kids’/students’ lives. (Note: I actually have been doing acts of kindness for years especially around the holidays when I get a break from my college teaching. I never told anyone of these acts as they are personal and I don’t do them for any need of acknowledgement. But as I’ve stated, I hope telling this story inspires others to be proactive in their acts of kindness.)
Below are the beginning of my 2013 list as a response to Black Friday – they are my stories of giving kindness. They begin with acts that were not financial based and then with acts of giving money to charities.
#1 – Clerk with Autism
I went to the local Hastings to buy my brother some books for the holidays. I asked for a specific genre – WWII – because this topic is a passion for my brother, who has Aspergers. I explained this to her. She said that she has Asperger’s, too. I told her that she was doing well as a clerk and she said sometimes it is hard for her. That night there was a special event at the mall. The center of the mall was set up to host live bands and some of the local restaurants were giving away free appetizers. I explained this to the clerk who did not know of the event. I asked her if she had a break to go check out the event. She said she did not as she was only on 5 hour shifts. At the same time, two of the young Hastings clerks, early twenties possibly, were going on break and headed towards this event. The clerk asked them as they were leaving, “Can you get me some food?” They totally ignored her. As soon as I finish paying for the books, I headed to the event, grabbed several appetizers, went back to Hastings, and handed her the food.
#2 – Birthday Party for Kim
Kim is a very sweet and dedicated spin bike instructor. She is giving is time, energy, and resources . . . goes way beyond what one expects or gets from a fitness instructor. She told us a birthday was coming up. I got party decorations and a decadent chocolate cake and set up the spin room prior to class. She celebrated through three of her classes.
#3 – An Unexpected Hug
I take a pottery class at the local community college. There about 15 in the class including an older woman from Germany. She is abrupt in her comments and thoughts; and lacks the humor that most of the rest of us have in the class. She is not well-liked due to this. I have somewhat befriended her talking to her about her pots. We had a long break coming due to Thanksgiving. She was leaving and wished me a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked her for a hug before she left expecting a little, slight embrace. The opposite occurred. She gave me a strong, long, caring hug – such an unexpected treat.
#4 – Donated to Save the Children disaster relief efforts for Typhoon Haiyan right after the typhoon.
#5 – Supported the amazing Black Girls Rock by Tweeting about their sheros show and purchasing a t-shirt.
#6, 7, 8, 9, 10 – Donated special gifts through Save the Children – 2 goats, school clinic, clean water clinic, community book bank, 14 week supply of ready to use food
#11 – Selected a Donors Choose program for a local classroom teacher to buy books, The Fault in Our Stars and Thirteen Reasons Why, for her teen students.
#12 – Another donation to help with those in the Philippines affected by the typhon
#14 – Donation to help in Haiti’s Beyond the Borders to help end childhood slavery there.
#15 – Donated to Indiegogo project – Afrimakers: Empower makers in Africa to develop sustainable projects and use making to solve local challenges and create an exchange of best practices between locals.
#16 – Gave a Hug & a Chocolate Treat
I have a fitness instructor who is amazing in fitness but lacking in social skills. She often runs her group fitness classes like a drill sergeant – making everyone be there on time and yelling about form the whole time. Many don’t take her class due to this. But I like her routine, so I put up with her “meanness”. That day someone in class mentioned it was her birthday. After class, I took a deep breath and went up to her to give her a hug. During her barely touching me hug, I said that I appreciated her classes and was happy I got to take them. That day I went to the local bakery and bought her chocolate brownies and gave them to her as a birthday/Christmas present a few days later. She seemed genuinely appreciative.
#17 – Donated to Be K.I.N.D. to a Girl in Malawi. Provide a School Scholarship.
#18 – Ceramic Sponges to My Pottery Buds
Bought and gave out specialized ceramic sponges to my pottery buddies.
#19 – Toys for Tots Zumbathon
Attended a Zumbathon where the entrance fee was a toy for tots.
#20 – Holiday Treats for My Brother and His Family
I have been disconnected with my youngest brother and his family for about three years – no calls, presents, or cards. It was not precipitated by anything. It just happened. I bought and am sending his family a basket of baked treats for a local bakery for Christmas.
#21 – Donated and Supported (through Tweets) to Project for Awesome
Donated to get a t-shirt and a signed copy of John Green’s The Fault in Our Stars (score! in many ways).
#22 – Donated to Pencils of Promise to Help Build a School
I rented some studio space at Santa Fe Clay for the month of December because the college where I do pottery is closed for the winter break. Studio space costs some $$$ – it has as such become a place where retired and a bit wealthy patrons make pots. I have been going in a few hours several days a week. I tend to just focus on my work. I did notice a woman probably in her mid or late 80s working on some bowls and asked her about it. She told me that she made pots in her 20s and wanted to get back into it. She explained that it was NOT like riding a bike and that she was struggling a bit. I have a great handmade wooden tool, called a rib, that’s great for shaping bowls. As she was working on a bowl, I asked her if I could shape her bowl to show her how. She watched intently and asked some questions. I told her to try the rib on her next bowl. When she got to the point of shaping with my rib, I went over and talked her through using it. Her bowl looked good – much better than the bowls she made earlier – and showed me as such. She thanked me and said it was probably the best tip she’s gotten since going back to pottery. A little bit of my time made a difference for her AND for me as the gift in giving is priceless.
#24 – Donated to Unicef USA as an end of year matched donation
Parting shot . . .
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